Reflecting is trying to understand an object within the system that causes that object. It's being aware of something you must have to be able to fit reasons into systems and carry them around in your mind. But that object itself is something different from systems and minds.
Grasping a connection between this super-rational object and those systems and minds is a process.
First get clear on the problem.
Undefined mental bridges connect to islands lost in the fog.
Reflecting is trying to solve a problem. It's trying to get a line from the coast to something helpless at sea through a shifting and uncertain light.